Cries For Help

When I write these articles, I don’t think of someone and start writing. I think of a widespread issue that I encounter and observe and I write about that. If you read a rant or 12 that seems like it’s (they’re) about you, you should probably consider the topic and decide if it applies to you. If it does and you don’t like it, perhaps you should work on correcting it. I assure you no one I know is so special as to warrant a 2 hour write up to be posted for the world to see. If something I write in these articles offends you or causes you to go into defensive mode, it’s my opinion the problem isn’t the article but something you don’t like about yourself. Nothing I say or do can fix that particular issue, the onus is on you to decide if you can deal with having a relationship with that particular issue. And that leads me to today’s article, problem solving from the inside out… put down your Dr. Imgonnafixyou book and take a look at this…

People walk around with problems they don’t understand, can’t identify or don’t know how to resolve. Sometimes it’s a problem generated by personal belief, upbringing, or ignorance of the problems existence. In all of these cases it seems there are indicators that will show you the way, the situations themselves are not that indicator but your responses to them are. When a pshrynk says “and how does that make you feel” he/she really isn’t being a smart ass, they are attempting to get to the root of the issue, to identify it and it’s generated responses so they can help you deal with it in a manner that would be beneficial to you. While I am not a pshrynk and I can not ask you questions, I can save you 100 bucks an hour (or more) by explaining how the process works. The goal is to identify; pay attention to your reactions to things that you encounter, take a mental note of it and give it some thought on why you responded the way you did. I don’t mean “Cause daddy touched me” reasons, I mean what just happened inside you to generate your current response. Did it make you nervous? Perhaps you have an underlying fear. Did it make you angry? If so what about it made you angry? Perhaps you have some deep insecurity you didn’t realize.

Things along those lines, look within not without, no one can “Make” you feel a certain way, they may have triggered the feeling but it was already there waiting for its moment. It was helpful to me to look into the reasons for emotions, and what they tend to indicate and may help others as well, google is an awesome tool.

Closing thought; I promise I am not writing about you so don’t get offended by my words, it’s not my fault nor my problem if something I say applies to you. More specifically it’s not on me to make sure you are comfortable with whom you are. If you are uncomfortable with your actions or results correct them, not me.

Side Note:
This in no way means I don’t want your comments, and you can chew on me or my words all you want, I like the alternate perspectives. For whatever reason I had an urge to expand on my previous article, “Fence Theft” feel free to read it again if you want to see the blunt objective version of this.