Square Peg Round Hole
So the week is finally at an end, I have to say I hated doing the series, and I probably won’t do another planned series. It got far too serious for my liking (my own fault) and completely got away from what I had intended of this blog in general. So let’s get this chapter done and move on….
After a little bashing and a little attempted justification I thought I would take a stab at a meaningful (relative term) article today. Men and Women both are at fault to some degree or other for the miscommunication and difficulties of any relationship involving both parties. This is to say that it takes two to tango (have sex) otherwise you are just alone in a room doing something you hope no one sees. In the end all of the complaints people have about the opposite gender have gone from being something to say to your friends as conversation pieces (kind of like “you think that’s bad….”) to reasons for bailing out on a commitment. At least that’s the way it seems to me; just another example of the lazy attitudes of ours and our parents generation. There are as many divorces today as there are marriages and it’s accepted as ok, because we are just too inclined to find something easier instead of working on something present. This is not to say it’s never necessary, again it takes two to accomplish a working relationship. If one member won’t work on it then the other has to eventually give it up and find someone that will. Here is a hint: stop pointing the finger and start fixing you first, then try and fix the relationship. That goes for both parties. If after you have become content with who you are, where you are and the relationship still won’t work, then it’s time to find one that will.
If that paragraph makes you say “there he goes again, bashing [insert gender here]” or “oh so it’s all on me huh?” then you are missing the point and obviously have issues you need to work on, get a Therapist! I am not a doctor, I didn’t even go to college, I am wrong as often (probably more often) as I am right. Anything I write here is my opinion and whether you agree or disagree with what is being said I only hope it sparks thought and maybe even conversation, because to me that is the road to truth and functionality.
Closing thought; have a little tolerance and a lot of patience, things will go smoother and you will find you understand the situation better. If you have a question, ask it, if you have a perception state it, these are the foundations of communication.
com·mu·ni·ca·tion
Function: noun
1. a technique for expressing ideas effectively (as in speech).
2. a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior.
After a little bashing and a little attempted justification I thought I would take a stab at a meaningful (relative term) article today. Men and Women both are at fault to some degree or other for the miscommunication and difficulties of any relationship involving both parties. This is to say that it takes two to tango (have sex) otherwise you are just alone in a room doing something you hope no one sees. In the end all of the complaints people have about the opposite gender have gone from being something to say to your friends as conversation pieces (kind of like “you think that’s bad….”) to reasons for bailing out on a commitment. At least that’s the way it seems to me; just another example of the lazy attitudes of ours and our parents generation. There are as many divorces today as there are marriages and it’s accepted as ok, because we are just too inclined to find something easier instead of working on something present. This is not to say it’s never necessary, again it takes two to accomplish a working relationship. If one member won’t work on it then the other has to eventually give it up and find someone that will. Here is a hint: stop pointing the finger and start fixing you first, then try and fix the relationship. That goes for both parties. If after you have become content with who you are, where you are and the relationship still won’t work, then it’s time to find one that will.
If that paragraph makes you say “there he goes again, bashing [insert gender here]” or “oh so it’s all on me huh?” then you are missing the point and obviously have issues you need to work on, get a Therapist! I am not a doctor, I didn’t even go to college, I am wrong as often (probably more often) as I am right. Anything I write here is my opinion and whether you agree or disagree with what is being said I only hope it sparks thought and maybe even conversation, because to me that is the road to truth and functionality.
Closing thought; have a little tolerance and a lot of patience, things will go smoother and you will find you understand the situation better. If you have a question, ask it, if you have a perception state it, these are the foundations of communication.
com·mu·ni·ca·tion
Function: noun
1. a technique for expressing ideas effectively (as in speech).
2. a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior.
posted by Capt. Obvious at 6:33 AM
4 Comments:
pinga ding ding....well said capt. obvious!
There are as many divorces today as there are marriages and it’s accepted as ok, because we are just too inclined to find something easier instead of working on something present......
All in all I think a very insightful series. It takes two to tango... do you think our grandparents knew each other?
The key word is work Captain. It doesn’t come easy and people today having grown up watching fairytale marriages on television don’t understand the concept. It’s all about ME.
i find it so damn depressing that all my highest ideals - of marriage that lasts - seem almost immature in this cynical world today.
Theese days the option of divorce has cheapened the value of marriage.
oob -
yeah tell me about it after two attempts myself I have found it's hard to find someone that wants to work for anything at all, much less something as replacable as a relationship. depressing.
Fatty -
funny thing actually yours is the more mature view, so many people don't want to put effort into anything, and that is a very "Daddy can I HAVE..." attitude, which to me is the more immature view. I may be a cynic to some but I think I am a realist I see it for what it is and try and make it different.
I think the closing thought should have included "Never Settle" in there somewhere, oh well, hind-sight is 20/20.
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