Slot B
So now that the Man Bashing has begun I want to give the other half something to snicker about before I tear them down again, today is the counter part to yesterday; Women, Females, Ladies, Grrrrlies, chix, well you know plenty of others I am sure. As with men I am going with the 80 20 rule here, that is it's true 80% of the time.
So ladies, you are pretty content with yourselves after yesterdays article I assume, you have the whole; “See that’s what I have been talking about all this time” going on right? No? That’s ok it leads me right to the first point I want to hit on about women’s short comings. Women want whatever it is they don’t have. Now before the Nay saying begins let me explain what I mean. Women say they want a man who is [insert list here], now what she doesn’t ever seem to realize is that, this man they are describing is the same guy they have just, or at least previously had, left behind cause he was [insert complaint here] which is always part of the package. A female generally doesn’t understand the concept of “Good with the bad” and can’t get passed her own wants long enough to realize what the word compromise really means. Here let me help… it does not mean; if he wants sex [insert situation here] will be handled this way. In short women rarely know what it is they really want. Dispute it all you want but look back and consider the choices you have made so far.
Compromise; when you have a problem you sit and you pout, and you complain about everything from “I feel trapped” to “why haven’t you mowed the yard yet?” All of which is rarely the issue at hand. By the way mind reading is not a guys thing, if you want him to understand what the problem is sit down, turn off the TV (that part is crucial), and tell him flat out minus the “but” and the “if”. Just say it like it is, if you hurt his feelings tell him to suck it up and work with you on fixing it. I hate to break it to you but guys feel trapped all the time with or without a partner, we have to work, we have to maintain, and we have to carry on. Just because there are things that have to be done it does not constitute an escape plan. I realize Daddy let that stuff happen but Daddy isn’t here, it is a partnership. Speak up spit it out, if he doesn’t attempt to work things out in a decent manor, then you should consider finding someone else. Bitching about it isn’t fixing it.
Self importance; this drives me nuts and although I wonder if most guys can put their finger on it I bet it drives all men nuts too. Yes whatever it is you are doing is important, let’s use the house wife example (classic is best to start with); Keeping the house and raising the kids and all that comes with that is extremely important. But you know, having a house to keep and food to give those kids is equally important, you say that being the house wife is a 24 hour a day job, yes it is, but if a man has a 24 hour a day job you would leave him because he wouldn’t be home to appreciate all that you do or to see those lovely children. So when he comes home, bitching about having to keep going isn’t really the way to make him want to come home. Sure tell him how the day went, how much it sucks to have to always be doing things (Oprah hour is not mandatory by the way), but it’s not exactly all his fault, just like it’s not your fault his boss is an asshole, so don’t act like it is. I don’t know about every man but I know I get tired of hearing how tough it is to keep that Huge Expensive house in order. Get a smaller house if you are so inclined. Since I know you are thinking “you don’t understand you never had to …” whatever, I am a single father, I work and I take care of my son and house. And this is because she altered her decision to do the family thing after the fact, not my doing. So really think before you tear your other half down for being tired after work. Things could be worse. For you working women, welcome to hell, it only gets more complicated from there, cause guess what the kids are being raised by Day Care and (in most cases) Public School. Yeah it was a brilliant trade you made, screw the kids everyone else is doing it, they will be fine. Has anyone noticed the rise in prison populations, I primarily blame mothers for this although not entirely. Face it you don’t want a man to stay home and take care of the house and kids (if you do, email me I would be happy to chill long enough for you to change your mind), he is classified by you and your friends (male and female) as a freeloader, double standard anyone?.
Ok that got longer than I meant to let it get… I bet it doesn’t make a lot of sense either, it’s ok I will proof it later and try to work it out as well as I can without changing the meaning of it. What’s worse I didn’t get to a lot of what I intended… but I think it will be a good start till part two on Thursday, tomorrow is Men part 2.
Closing thought; The article wanders a bit, but I kept it because reading it is like talking to a woman (80 20 rule). Back to the closing thought; Figure out what you want before you settle on something that seems Fun, Cool, Special, amazing, etc. etc. etc. It is rarely that same adjective a year or two later particularly if kids become part of the picture. Not everything has to happen instantly.
So ladies, you are pretty content with yourselves after yesterdays article I assume, you have the whole; “See that’s what I have been talking about all this time” going on right? No? That’s ok it leads me right to the first point I want to hit on about women’s short comings. Women want whatever it is they don’t have. Now before the Nay saying begins let me explain what I mean. Women say they want a man who is [insert list here], now what she doesn’t ever seem to realize is that, this man they are describing is the same guy they have just, or at least previously had, left behind cause he was [insert complaint here] which is always part of the package. A female generally doesn’t understand the concept of “Good with the bad” and can’t get passed her own wants long enough to realize what the word compromise really means. Here let me help… it does not mean; if he wants sex [insert situation here] will be handled this way. In short women rarely know what it is they really want. Dispute it all you want but look back and consider the choices you have made so far.
Compromise; when you have a problem you sit and you pout, and you complain about everything from “I feel trapped” to “why haven’t you mowed the yard yet?” All of which is rarely the issue at hand. By the way mind reading is not a guys thing, if you want him to understand what the problem is sit down, turn off the TV (that part is crucial), and tell him flat out minus the “but” and the “if”. Just say it like it is, if you hurt his feelings tell him to suck it up and work with you on fixing it. I hate to break it to you but guys feel trapped all the time with or without a partner, we have to work, we have to maintain, and we have to carry on. Just because there are things that have to be done it does not constitute an escape plan. I realize Daddy let that stuff happen but Daddy isn’t here, it is a partnership. Speak up spit it out, if he doesn’t attempt to work things out in a decent manor, then you should consider finding someone else. Bitching about it isn’t fixing it.
Self importance; this drives me nuts and although I wonder if most guys can put their finger on it I bet it drives all men nuts too. Yes whatever it is you are doing is important, let’s use the house wife example (classic is best to start with); Keeping the house and raising the kids and all that comes with that is extremely important. But you know, having a house to keep and food to give those kids is equally important, you say that being the house wife is a 24 hour a day job, yes it is, but if a man has a 24 hour a day job you would leave him because he wouldn’t be home to appreciate all that you do or to see those lovely children. So when he comes home, bitching about having to keep going isn’t really the way to make him want to come home. Sure tell him how the day went, how much it sucks to have to always be doing things (Oprah hour is not mandatory by the way), but it’s not exactly all his fault, just like it’s not your fault his boss is an asshole, so don’t act like it is. I don’t know about every man but I know I get tired of hearing how tough it is to keep that Huge Expensive house in order. Get a smaller house if you are so inclined. Since I know you are thinking “you don’t understand you never had to …” whatever, I am a single father, I work and I take care of my son and house. And this is because she altered her decision to do the family thing after the fact, not my doing. So really think before you tear your other half down for being tired after work. Things could be worse. For you working women, welcome to hell, it only gets more complicated from there, cause guess what the kids are being raised by Day Care and (in most cases) Public School. Yeah it was a brilliant trade you made, screw the kids everyone else is doing it, they will be fine. Has anyone noticed the rise in prison populations, I primarily blame mothers for this although not entirely. Face it you don’t want a man to stay home and take care of the house and kids (if you do, email me I would be happy to chill long enough for you to change your mind), he is classified by you and your friends (male and female) as a freeloader, double standard anyone?.
Ok that got longer than I meant to let it get… I bet it doesn’t make a lot of sense either, it’s ok I will proof it later and try to work it out as well as I can without changing the meaning of it. What’s worse I didn’t get to a lot of what I intended… but I think it will be a good start till part two on Thursday, tomorrow is Men part 2.
Closing thought; The article wanders a bit, but I kept it because reading it is like talking to a woman (80 20 rule). Back to the closing thought; Figure out what you want before you settle on something that seems Fun, Cool, Special, amazing, etc. etc. etc. It is rarely that same adjective a year or two later particularly if kids become part of the picture. Not everything has to happen instantly.
posted by Capt. Obvious at 6:44 AM
7 Comments:
Ok. I agree and disagree, yes I'm a woman. I have 2 children and a place of my own. I'm told it's not my responsibility to clean "his" place too. Why is it that the vaccuuming, dusting and dishes are never done until I get there to visit? If I don't do it I hear about it all week (as a joke of course). Now, another question, why don't men listen until women start the crying act? (sometimes it is an act)They say they want us just to tell them what's wrong right from the beginning and just be "open and honest". Then why the hell won't you men listen until we get upset about it?
WARNING ! DANGER ! BEWARE! COLLISION AHEAD!
Be careful Captain. These types of statements have consequences. Not only this post or your last , but all through your site there is , so far at least , an excessive amount of common sense. People making similar type statements in the past have been accused of bias , ignorance and the lowest form of political incorrectness known to exist to common man , actual honesty.
Anon - hehe yeahits an 80 20 rule statement, cant be helped when speaking in geralities. even if all of it doesn't apply specifically to you, some does and you know someone else the other stuff will :)
oob-
hehe yeah no running for office in my future...
Let them accuse :) I dont mind, ifI am wrong i will admit it, if I'm am not wrong I wont appologize :) life is good when you keep it simple (in my opinion of course)
BUT....it does all apply to me. I am a woman, of course it all applies to me. I still want to know why you don't listen if you want us to be so open until we start throwing a fit?
me or men? I do listen and have found that i don't have most of these problems with women directly. Men don't listen... well did you read Tab A? if that doesn't get you on the right path to why men don't listen, then I hope Part 2 of TabA (tomorrow) will :) I am not dodgign the question btw... I just don't want to get into tomorrows article until it's posted :)
I did read it and I guess the sauga will continue tomorrow. And so will this conversation.....I'm pretty sure!!!! Till then...LATAH!!
Common Sense isn't. BTW Anon, from personal situation I have to say that most women don't say anything until are upset and pitching a fit. If you don't, Go you. If he doesn't listen, Bad significant other no biscuit! Or maybe he listens but doesn't think it's a real issue or that you should get over it, and no I'm not saying you should get over it I haven't heard the issues. Don't really want to. I've been married I heard the issues. Course I would take two steps forward and 12 more issues would pop up so it got a little umm how should I put it, not really old, but it gave me more of a feeling like I wasn't going anywhere but backwards when I gave it a shot. But hey, I have to say it wasn't all her infact I would prolly say a 40 60 split me being the 60. Last but not least, sounds like you set a presidence when you started doing his house work when you went over there, Bad move. I know if somone came over to my place and started cleaning, after a while I would get used to it. Probrably shouldn't but I would! But shame on him for the comments if you don't, again. Bad significant other NO BISCUIT!
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