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Ok so we have torn both parties down to some basic issues. Now let’s provide reasons for why they do some of the things they do. I had originally intended to keep on criticizing but after a few emails and comments I believe it would be more in line with the series to go into the “Why” of things. Bear in mind I am a little biased, I will try and keep that bias aside for this article but I am sure it will slip in from time to time. So buckle your seatbelts, grab the dangling oxygen mask, and remember your seat doubles as a floatation device; we are about to nose dive.

So we know men do some seemingly irrational things, all the time thinking it’s what should be done. One thing I mentioned in the previous article was the workaholic issue. In men’s defense they do this for a number of reasons; one being that their personal worth, in their mind, is directly equivalent to what they are able to purchase. Now that seems really dumb but it’s a view that is encouraged by society on the whole, yes women encourage it too. How is this encouraged? Well I am glad you asked, look at how men are perceived, “hey nice car!” and “will you buy me a drink?” and “Dude let’s go to Vegas!” and my favorite “the difference between a man and a boy is the price of his toys.” Now tell me, does any of that allude to real character or personality? Anything there strike you as insightful or nurturing of anything besides purchase power? Another is that men have never been shown it is ok to have feelings, told maybe but not shown. When a man gets angry it’s not ok, because he is wrong, or is exaggerating the issue. When a man cries he is a sissy, and women that say “NO! It’s ok to cry” are lying to yourself and us. At first you get that nurturing thing going on, but later something deep down changes in a negative way about your perception of that man. ~ damn, you know I have some kind of issue with this, I can’t think of a single sarcastic thing to say here, Bad author… bad!~ Crap here is that stupid bias thing; I digress because I agree men shouldn’t cry they should solve. But to the point; should men cave to the social expectation? Hell no! Grow a nut man, look them in the eyes and ask yourself do you really give a shit what they think? Live to be happy and keep your family happy. Oh, and don’t forget to pay the bills.

So next up, men don’t listen (by request); Men don’t listen in some instances because whatever is being said has either been said a thousand times and when he responded or acted in accordance to the previous discussion nothing changed, and no appreciation was found. And behold the birth of the nod and smile, also known as screen saver face. Other times discussion appears to have no point in sight and once the point comes to light he forgot to start listening again or didn’t notice it as it was camouflaged in all the excess tangents and meaningless crap. Women also do this when discussing things with other women, I have video footage. Now, this is not attempting to say that some men are not a lost cause and don’t freaking care what is being said, nor if there is a point. But on the whole those are probably the two most consistent reasons men don’t listen. If that doesn’t seem accurate, next time you talk to a man about something important to you; listen to what you are saying and how you are going about saying it.

Lets see what other stupid shit gets pulled by guys, well whatever it is I bet it can be related back to sex, a guy in America has to compete for sex, and I don’t mean he has to look cuter than the guy next to him (although it helps). A guy has to have wittier repartee a seemingly healthier bank account and a … you know I don’t know what else he has to have maybe that’s why I am single. And these things are what developed pick up lines. Men have found they don’t have to be honest to get laid… just convincing. If he can tell a girl what she wants to hear and convince her it may be true, he will get laid. It’s that simple. A guy will do just about anything long enough to get laid. And it works or they would find another way. Generally speaking men on the whole are no more intelligent or stupid than women, contrary to popular belief, they are just a bit more focused (on sex).

Closing though; It’s stupid of me to try and justify actions of any group, I should stick to criticizing, I am better at it. People are people male, female, cross-dressers…..all still people we all have wants and will conform to the requirements to get what we want. When that doesn’t work we ignore them and find ways to get it. By the way in regards to men the “IT” is sex. It may not be right that minute but it’s the overall goal.